There are few things that have as much power to affect our sex role image as our ability to perform sexually. This is why performance anxiety is such a potent fear for men. Merely the thought of losing an erecting is often enough to cause an erectile disorder. Too many men simply stop trying because they are too embarrassed to look for help. They feel they are frustrating and letting down their partner and feel guilty. It does not have to be this way. Don’t let anyone tell your sex life is over until you decide it is.
Sex therapists are trained to assist people to work through the anxiety of not being able to perform sexually. We also sort out what are physical reasons and what are physiological reasons. Physical reasons could be; age, medications, illness and lack of male hormones. Psychological reasons could be stress, anxiety and dysfunctional schemas. Those are beliefs that are disturbing your natural ability to get and maintain an erection firm enough for intercourse.
Some of the most important questions to ask are; Is the issue situational? Or does it happen every time? Is your penis able to obtain the necessary firmness under other circumstances when there is no pressure to perform such as night erections?
There is a great variety of medications, assistive devices and medical interventions that can now be perused. Sex therapists can assist you to narrow your search down to the few essentials that that you need to be able to continue to enjoy sex. This will make you feel great about your gender role again.