Many people experience pain while trying to have sex. Both men and women can develop anxiety when they feel like their bodies are not responding correctly. This can lead to avoidance of sexual activity and in extreme cases a belief that you can’t have sex.
Things like a yeast infection, urinary tract infection, giving birth, endometrioses, severe stress, relationship difficulties, grief and sexual trauma can easily become an onset for sexual pain. There is no one reason for pain usually, it’s a complex issue that is not likely going to go away without professional help.
Often individuals who experience pain have been to a medical professional that has assured them they are “normal”. They try again only to experience more pain and frustration. This can be a very painful and frustrating journey and too many people give up and decide sex is just not for me. But you don’t need to suffer.
There are in fact very successful treatments and supports available for people who suffer from sexual pain. Treatment includes gradual decrease of the anxiety and relaxation exercises and hormonal evaluation. A possible referral to a pelvic floor therapist and homework exercises. A reconnection with your erotic side, re-education about sexuality and sexual attitudes and learning to enjoy sex again without pain.
It’s a process and everyone can get to a place where they can enjoy sex. You will need courage, patience and a willingness to try again when you are ready. I am ready to start working with you when you are ready to work.