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When sex is painful…

Many people experience pain while trying to have sex. Both men and women can develop anxiety when they feel like their bodies are not responding correctly when they are supposed to be sexually aroused. This can lead to avoidance of sexual activity and in extreme cases a belief that you can’t have sex.
Things like a yeast infection, urinary tract infection, giving birth, endometrioses, severe stress, relationship difficulties, grief and sexual trauma can easily be an onset for sexual pain. There is no one reason for pain usually, it’s a complex issue that is not likely going to go away without professional help.
Often individuals who experience pain have been to a medical professional that has assured them they are “normal” and so they try again only to experience more pain and frustration. This can be a very painful and frustrating journey and too many people give up and decide sex is just not for me. But you don’t need to suffer.
There are in fact very successful treatments and supports available for people who suffer from sexual pain. Treatment includes gradual decrease of the anxiety, relaxation exercises, hormonal evaluation, possible referral to a pelvic floor therapist, homework exercises, reconnection with your erotic side, re-education about sexuality and sexual attitudes and learning to enjoy sex again without pain.
It’s a process and everyone can get to a place where they can enjoy sex. You will need courage, patience and a willingness to try again when you are ready. I am ready to start working with you when you are ready to work.

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