When sexual desire is lacking couples find it hard to talk about. Most people dont understand what is happening. Sex therapists diagnose and treat a variety of concerns. Many individuals and couples experience a drop of and a lack of desire in an otherwise good relationship. For women the condition is called “Female Desire Sexual Interest/Arousal disorder”. For men it’s called “Male Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder”. Often desire is unequal in a sexual relationship. This is where sex therapy can help.
Because human sexual arousal is a complicated process that involves many different mechanisms it’s not always easy to pinpoint one culprit. Many times the “reason” is a combination of factors such as; hormonal imbalance, physiological issues such as endometrioses or scar tissue after giving birth, foreskin that is too tight to name a few.
Many sexual issues have come about because of a yeast infection. Yeast infection is contagious. Both need treatment. Our general health can also play a factor in our sexual response, things like blood pressure, hypothyroidism, diabetes and aging.
Psychological factors tend to be a part of the issue. Anxiety is the polar opposite of sexual arousal. Anxiety causes a sympatric response in the body. The body needs to be in a parasympathetic state in order to become sexually aroused. Depression can dampen desire as well. Stress, a lack of sleep and relationship issues will affect your ability to experience normal sexual arousal.
A good place to start to think about desire for sex is, do you still have sexual fantasies? Do you still (ever) masturbate? Ever have sexual thoughts? Do you experience arousal? Does the thought of having sex with your partner seem like a lot of work? Those are the kind of questions a Sex Therapist will ask you help you find your sexy back!