As our bodies age, we may experience some related changes such as loss of sexual sensitivity. This may lead to significant more difficulties with orgasm and arousal. For women it can lead to loss of orgasm with intercourse and for men it can lead to erectile difficulties and delayed orgasms. Modern medicine has come up with several ways to combat this loss and to restore our bodies back to sexual sensitivity peaks.
First off is Hormonal Replacement Treatment (HRT). You make an appointment with a Hormone Specialist and go for a blood test. You get a complete personalized evaluation and a recommendation for your specific needs. In most cases this is enough to restore peak sexual function.
Then there are more advanced techniques such as o-shots (orgasm) and p-shots (penis). Those are outpatient procedures that take about an hour (mostly for numbing creams to take full effects). Blood is extracted from you and processed, centrifugation and condensing your own platelets (PRP) and stem cells. Your blood is injected back into targeted areas on the clitoris/vulva/penis.
Thirdly worth mentioning is the Gainswave treatment. A new treatment for erectile dysfunction that is comprised of sounds waves being directed at the penis. The sound waves break down the accumulated plague inside the blood veins of the penis. This leads to better circulation and harder erections. This technology has not yet been approved for women but it is expected to be developed in the near future.
There are many things you can do to increase the likelihood of the female orgasm with a partner. First off, some important information. The average woman requires about 12 to 15 minutes of direct clitoral stimulation to be able to reach orgasm. That is about 2 to 3 times longer than most men are able to last. Add to that the fact the clitoris is not located right by the vaginal opening, in most cases about 2.5 cm above the opening and you start to understand why intercourse may not be the most efficient way for women to orgasm.
Only about 30% of women are in fact able to orgasm by intercourse alone. This number can increase substantially by using the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) that emphasizes pelvic rubbing of the partner to the clitoris. Most women orgasm easier by oral sex and direct manipulation of the clitoris and the vagina. As in the classic Kama Sutra technique of using both finger(s) (for the vagina opening) and lips (suction) for the clitoris at the same time.
Other things worth mentioning are; make sure her feet are warm. Women register cold as pain and this makes it harder to reach orgasm, this is really true! Many women have a hard time staying focused on the body sensation and find that their mind wonders. A good way to combat that is to imagine an erotic scene in your mind. Then play little details over and over again in your mind until your body takes over. Finally take time to fully relax and get into the mood before you get started. A relaxed state is a necessary precursor for an orgasm to happen.
There are few questions that come with as much speculation as questions about the importance of the size of the male penis. Let’s look at the matter in closer detail and discuss it as it relates to a man’s ability to promote female orgasm.
According to research, only about 30% of women are able to achieve orgasm through intercourse. In fact most women are able to achieve orgasm much easier by means of more direct clitoral manipulation. That statistic greatly de-emphasizes the reliance of penis to assist in bringing a woman in orgasm.
If we look at the mechanics of the physical body of a female the clitoris is placed outside of the vulva. In actual technical terms, it’s actually the rubbing of the male pubic bone to the clitoris that facilitates an orgasm for a woman during intercourse. (In the coital alignment position, that is widely considered the most favorable position for women to achieve orgasm during intercourse).
On average women need about 12-15 minutes of direct clitoral stimulation to reach an orgasm. Again, penis size here is an irrelevant factor. Unless the penis is too large and causes pain by pressing too hard on the cervix during thrusting.
So if penis size is so unimportant, what is all the fuss about? Well, for some women seeing a larger penis can be a turn on just like some men are turned on by big breasts. Additionally men with a large penis tend to be more confident and that is a huge advantage in attracting a mate.
Bottom line here is, it’s all in the mind!
There are few things that have as much power to affect our sex role image as our ability to perform sexually. This is why performance anxiety is such a potent fear for men. Merely the thought of losing an erecting is often enough to cause an erectile disorder. Too many men simply stop trying because they are too embarrassed to look for help. They feel they are frustrating and letting down their partner and feel guilty. It does not have to be this way. Don’t let anyone tell your sex life is over until you decide it is.
Sex therapists are trained to assist people to work through the anxiety of not being able to perform sexually. We also sort out what are physical reasons and what are physiological reasons. Physical reasons could be; age, medications, illness and lack of male hormones. Psychological reasons could be stress, anxiety and dysfunctional schemas. Those are beliefs that are disturbing your natural ability to get and maintain an erection firm enough for intercourse.
Some of the most important questions to ask are; Is the issue situational? Or does it happen every time? Is your penis able to obtain the necessary firmness under other circumstances when there is no pressure to perform such as night erections?
There is a great variety of medications, assistive devices and medical interventions that can now be perused. Sex therapists can assist you to narrow your search down to the few essentials that that you need to be able to continue to enjoy sex. This will make you feel great about your gender role again.
Are you or your partner unable to orgasm? Well, you are not alone! Although research has had a very hard time gathering reliable statistics on this pervasive issue, it is considered to affect somewhere between 10%-70% of all females.
It is interesting to note that only 20% of females claim to be able to climax during intercourse. However when men are asked they claim about 80% of their partners where able to climax during intercourse. Clearly, there is a major misconception regarding this important physiological function.
In fact 100% of females are physically able to reach an orgasm and even multiple orgasms. How is it possible that so few have mastered the art? Most women are not taught how to masturbate. Women get the societal message that its “bad” or “slutty” to have a sex drive. Even more so to be interested in learning how to masturbate. Research clearly shows women who learn how to masturbate are much more likely to be able to orgasm during sex and/or intercourse.
Many women struggle with a concept called “Observer Syndrome”. That concept refers to the tendency to focus on how you look during sex, if your partner is enjoying themselves, rather than the pleasure of sex. A Sex Therapist can assist you to work through the observer syndrome. Also, teach you effective methods to masturbate and techniques to increase your ability to reach orgasm during sexual activity.